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I have enough self-awareness to know that I’m no sexual dynamo. Probably never will be.
I mean, I like to think I'm usually mostly serviceable in the sack—but I also know if you were to poll most of the women, I've been lucky enough to sleep with they would identify several areas where there is definite room for improvement.
So, if there’s something I can do to boost my performance and my partner's experience, I’ll definitely try it at least once—if it’s within reason and (probably) not going to kill me. All the better if it's also supposed to somehow make sex feel even more amazing on my end.
The Pivot by We-Vibe, a vibrating cock ring, was supposed to do all these things. So when I was given an opportunity to try it, I shrugged and said “Sure, I’ll put that thing on my dick and see what happens.”
Vibrating cock rings promise several things that would likely improve many couples’ sexual excursions— like fuller, longer-lasting erections, more powerful orgasms and hands-free clitoral stimulation.
It can make you last longer, too. That’s uh, definitely worth a mention if you’re like me and can shoot one off in 30 seconds if you’re not some level of inebriated.
I was initially a little bit worried about approaching the woman I'm sleeping with about trying it. Our sex life isn't vanilla by any means, but this was a topic that had not yet been broached.
It went pretty smoothly, though.
"Hey, I got a vibrating cock ring," I said. "Want to try it out?"
"Sure. Let's try it tonight."
"I have to write about it, too."
"Just don't mention my name.”
(It did get a little weird at one point, though, because as I waited for my Pivot to arrive I spent some time reading its reviews on Amazon. My mom and I share a Prime account, so she saw the Pivot come up in the “recently viewed” section. This spurred several questions about my current sex and dating life that I was not particularly ready to answer. As you can imagine, this is not one of my writings she will print out and proudly put on her refrigerator.)
I charged the Pivot and mentally prepared myself for the night. My partner came over and we got down to it and, following a bit of foreplay, I found myself at full mast.
“Guess it’s time to put the cock ring on now,” I said, all fucking suave-like. And stopping things to don it was no more awkward or momentum-sapping than it is to pause to unroll a condom.
I was actually a little bit worried at first, because the Pivot looked like it might be a little bit tight. And it’s not like I’m massively girthy or anything like that. I do not possess a unit worth bragging about.
Turns out, though, that it’s meant to be that way, in order to restrict blood flow, which makes for a larger and longer-lasting erection, as well as, ostensibly, a more powerful orgasm.
And while the hole at first appeared small, the material the device is made from is pretty stretchy. The fit was comfortably snug.
Once on, I turned on its vibration feature and then proceeded to stare at my dick for a few moments to see if it was larger than usual. It didn’t really appear so, but I can attest that my erection seemed fuller than normal; more throbbing and with an extra thickness, if you will.
As for the vibrations, they felt a little bit strange at first, but in an arousing way. It kind of made my shaft and testicles tingle.
“So, are we going to use it?” she asked, snapping me out of my reverie.
And use it we did.
Once we really got into it, I noticed some of the improvements I’d been looking for. I felt like I had a pretty powerful erection, and my partner’s words of encouragement really urged me on. Normally, said urgings coax me to ejaculation pretty quickly, maybe because my body appreciates the verbal encouragement and support, but before too long I realised that I had been showing a display of endurance that is not exactly typical for me. I had been going longer than usual without reaching that pre-orgasm point-of-no-return. This gave us the opportunity to try several positions while wearing the ring.
My partner enjoyed the way the cock ring’s vibration was stimulating her clit, to the point that when she was on top of me, she just kind of stopped moving and laid there, letting the ring do its thing.
(I was happy to let her do that for as long as she liked, as I’d discovered that I was not in the physical shape to keep going without pause longer than I was used to. So tangentially you could say the Pivot woke me up to the fact that I need to hit the gym more often. Bonus!)
When I finished, I came hard. And loud, apparently. The partner said I’d made a borderline strange grunting sound she hadn’t heard from me before.
Her review? She was happy with how things went. So, I was excited about that.
All in all, a vibrating cock ring did make sex better for me.
It may have all been a placebo, but I look at sexual enhancement devices in the same way I look at medication: If it improves things for me, I don’t care if it’s a placebo or not.
But to find out I suppose I’ll have to use it again soon.
[ Via GQ Australia]
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