My 5-year-old refused to eat dinner - and I let her
On a recent weeknight, my 5-year-old daughter did not, in the slightest bit, like what I served for dinner.
In particular, she wanted nothing to do with the chicken that was in the dish. She announced, with a very determined face, "Mommy, you always tell me I should listen to my body, and my body says, 'No way eat that chicken,' so I won't eat it."
In fact, she was right. If her body was telling her not to eat that chicken, then she shouldn't eat it. Did I prefer that she have a few bites? Of course I did. I had spent time on that meal, but I had to remind myself that a little less protein one night is better than encouraging her to ignore her body's intuitive cues.
Long term, I want all of my children to listen to their bodies - whether it is telling them how hungry or full they are, how safe a situation is or what the right or wrong thing to do is.
The better children understand their bodies, the healthier they are going to be. Many adults are only now learning to listen to their internal cues, or perhaps finally choosing not to ignore them. Have any of you snubbed your body's cues for sleep when you poured a second glass of wine or hit play on another Netflix episode on a work night?
Along with listening to their bodies, I want my kids to understand that one size does not fit all. Some people tolerate dairy and gluten well, and others do not.
There are many people who tout a specific diet, claiming it is the only way to eat. It may be for them, but that doesn't mean it is for everyone else. For instance, some of us need meat; others are better without it. Some, like me, were fine without it for decades, yet when I was pregnant and nursing, my body started demanding it again. I had to listen to my body and not allow the statement "I am a vegetarian" to trump my body's concrete cues.
So when my daughter tells me she is listening to her body, even if it's nothing more than a ploy to get out of eating dinner, I am going to respect it. Then perhaps one day, when she is older, she will have the intuitive sense to take deep breaths before an exam, or to eat when she is hungry and put down the fork when she is not. Maybe she will even listen to alarms in her gut when her friends are doing something that doesn't feel smart, or follow her passion when settling on a career.
In the meantime, don't think I won't make that chicken dish again. Perhaps next time her body will say, "Yes way, eat that chicken." I can only hope.
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