South African media personality Sizwe Dhlomo. Picture: X/@SizweDhlomo
South African media personality Sizwe Dhlomo is no stranger to stirring the pot on X and his latest comment has ignited yet another fiery debate.
Responding to a tweet from a woman who quipped, “Ah he just wanted bums,” Dhlomo responded with: “Ladies, every guy who approaches you is sexually attracted to you. Know that from the jump. It’s just that some guys are raised well, so they approach you respectfully. That’s it.”
Ladies, every guy who approaches you, is sexually attracted to you. Know that from the jump. It’s just that some guys are raised well, so they approach you respectfully. That’s it. https://t.co/tswLS1Whuy
— Sizwe Dhlomo (@SizweDhlomo) December 29, 2024
The comment set off a flurry of reactions, with users across the platform either rallying behind his perspective or calling it out as an oversimplification.
This kind of polarised reaction has become a hallmark of Dhlomo’s online persona.
Dhlomo’s knack for sparking debate is nothing new.
In 2020, he gained attention for his controversial take on the ongoing feud between rappers AKA and Cassper Nyovest, tweeting, “People must stop playing politics and pick a side.”
Similarly, his views on financial responsibility — like the viral, “Your entitlement is the reason you’re broke” — drew applause and criticism.
These moments highlight Dhlomo’s tendency to tackle issues head-on, often pushing boundaries in ways that provoke discussion.
Research in evolutionary psychology, such as David M. Buss’s “Evolutionary Psychology: The New Science of the Mind”, suggests that physical attraction often plays a significant role in initial interactions between men and women.
Buss notes that while attraction is a common factor, individual, cultural and situational variables can significantly influence motivations.
However, the claim that all male interactions are rooted in attraction is challenged by other studies.
Research by April Bleske-Rechek et al., “Sex Differences in Friendship”, indicates that platonic relationships between men and women are not only possible but common.
These findings point to the complexity of human connections and suggest that not every interaction is driven by physical or romantic interest.
As usual, Mzansi's X users wasted no time in voicing their opinions.
@ThinasonkeNgidi argued: “Nah that's not it. Everybody knows sex is part of it, but do you just want sex or you want something more that just sex. That's the question.”
Nah that's not it. Everybody knows sex is part of it, but do you just want sex or you want something more that just sex. That's the question.
— Tee Ngidi (@ThinasonkeNgidi) December 29, 2024
Another user, @straategist, dismissed his take, commenting: “That's cap bro. I've approached girls bc I was bored. 99% of the time in actuality.”
That's cap bro. I've approached girls bc I was bored. 99% of the time in actuality
— CLVN (@straategist) December 29, 2024
Others, like @CollinsAsein, took a broader view: “Let me correct you: not every guy who approaches a woman is sexually attracted to her.
“Women are not walking magnets for desire, and men are capable of seeing women as equals, colleagues, or friends. Your comment just exposes your mindset, not everyone else's. Please, speak for yourself next time.”
Let me correct you: not every guy who approaches a woman is sexually attracted to her. Women are not walking magnets for desire, and men are capable of seeing women as equals, colleagues, or friends.
— Collins Asein (@CollinsAsein) December 29, 2024
Your comment just exposes your mindset, not everyone else's. Please, speak for…